Monthly Archives: March 2013

Better Things Waiting…

Each year, the company that I work for has an Annual Meeting outside of the US. Up until this year, I’ve been forunate to get to attend each of the Annual Meetings…Grand Cayman, Cabo, and Atantis. It’s always been a great experience. There is work involved in these trips, but also alot of fun and networking with our members/customers. This year, however, I do not get to attend. I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand, I’m really bummed out. I’ll miss seeing everyone this year and I’ll miss not getting away. However, with everything else that is going on in my life, it’s probabllly a good thing that I don’t have to be away right now.
And, now for the positive…since I wasn’t able to go on this trip and didn’t have to be away, I have the opportunity to go to Playa Del Carmen in 2 weeks with a girl friend for a true vacation! Her brother is getting married and her husband was not able to go with her, so she asked if I would be interested in going with her….Heck yes! If I didn’t have that trip to look forward to, I would probally be really bummed out not getting away to anywhere warm this winter and missing out on the Annual Meeting. On another positive note, I found out that next years Annual Meeting will possibly be in Costa Rica…I’ve never been there before and it should be my turn to go again. (I hope so anyway)
So, even though it feels like you are missing out on something, look ahead, because there may be even better things waiting for you.


Going Out

I recently went out with a group of friends. One of my best girl-friends brother in law is part of a Dueling Pianos act and they came to Willmar to perform. It was weird. It was the first time I had “gone out” and was around a large group of people. We all met at my friends house. I showed up alone, which I’m not used to at all. It was kind of a lonely experience walking to the door alone. I knew I would be fine once everyone else got there because it was a fun group of friends.
We then went to the bar where the Dueling Pianos was performing. I went with my girl friend to the table. A single guy friend was also with us. Even though we weren’t a couple, it was nice to know that I wasn’t the only single person in the room. (Yes I know there were others, but someone that is newly single feels that way, at least I do).
It feels weird going out as a single person, I’m hoping with time it gets easier and not so stressful. The things that go through your mind can be overwhelming…is everyone wondering why I’m alone, are they talking about my life, my situation, do they know the truth about why my STBX and I split, or are they speculating and spreading rumors. I know it sounds crazy, but I have a quite the imagination and I know how people like to talk and if they don’t know the whole story, they are quick to make one up.

Blessed in So Many Ways

Going through a divorce shows you how truly blessed you are. I’m not just talking material posessions and “things”, although that’s probally what most people think of when they start to count their blessings. The more important blessings are supportive family members, great friends, super kids, a strong Faith and finding happiness within yourself, even when it feels like the world as you know it is tumbling down all around you. Going through a divorce is tough. I would never wish it on anybody. But it also teaches you so many things about yourself. I’ve learned so much and have grown in so many ways during the last few months. I’ve gotten stronger, I’ve learned to be happy with what I have, to live within my means. I’ve learned to live each day to the fullest. I’ve also learned to live one day at a time. I’ve learned to tell the people around me how much I love them. How much they mean to me. I’ve also learned that it’s ok to lean on others and ask for help at times. That was probally one of the hardest things for me. I’ve always been very independent and did not like to ask for help. I don’t know why that is. When people ask me for help, I am always happy to help them and it made me feel good knowing that I was doing something for someone. So, why wouldn’t they want the same opportunity? Again, kind of an “a-ha” moment.

The Key To Life

happinessI found this quote and had an “aha moment”. This is so true. Happiness truly comes from within yourself. You can’t buy it. You can’t drive it. You can’t travel to it (all thoough a chair in the sun by the ocean would bring me some happiness right now:))

I used to try to buy my happiness. If I was down or upset, I would go shopping. Whether it was a new top or a whole outfit, or a car, or a camper, or new furniture. It would bring me happiness for a short while, but the happiness would wear off eventually and I would be left feeling empty again. To find true happiness, you must love yourself. You must be confidant in yourself. You must try to be the best self that you can be. Once you are there, you’ll find your happiness.

I try to teach this lesson to my girls every chance I get. It’s a tough one. We all get sucked up into material things at times. Especially when we see everything our friends/family have…it makes us feel like we deserve those things too.

I especially worry about buying love & happiness now with my STBX and our girls. Will he try to buy their love & Happiness? Will I try to out do him? I sincerely hope neither of us falls into that trap, but I see it happen so often. Last weekend, my daughter came home from her dad’s and told me if I really loved her, I would let her have a tv in her room. I quickly replied back with “No. I love you so much and want to watch tv with you so we’ll watch tv together in the family room or living room.” She smiled and said “I know. Just thought I’d try.” And yes, she does have a tv in her bedroom at her dads, but they also only have one living room which I pointed out to her too.

Happiness truly is the richest thing we will ever own. If you own happiness, the rest of the world looks so much brighter.

Do What Makes You Happy

happy2What a relief! As I tried to focus on work and everything else going on in my personal life right now, I was sifting through multiple emails that requird my attention and added more stress to my life. I decided this morning to step down from 2 committments that were starting to drag me down and cause me stress. I am the type of person that hates to say no to others. I really have a hard time with it. My motto has always been, “everyone’s busy, but we all need to do our part”. However, I’m learning that there comes a time in a person’s life that you need to say no to others and yes to yourself. When you can do that, you all of a sudden feel a huge releif.

Did I feel bad saying no? Very. I feel like I let others down. But, when you start feeling yourself stretched in multiple directions by things that really don’t bring you joy or peace, it’s time to take a look at the stressors/committments in your life and see where you can simplify/destress. You’ve got to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.

Fun. Lazy.

This past weeknd, I had my girls and we actually had no plans or tournaments to be at! We started off the weekend with a fun Friday night! We went to dinner and then went to the Middle School Production of Little Mermaid, it was fabulous! You know it’s good when your 11 year old goes through all the old movies the next day and watches all her favorite Disney movies from when she was little.

Saturday morning, we started the day with French Toast breakfast. Then we went downhill skiing. This was our first time ever skiing and it was a blast! It started out with a lesson, which didn’t go so great, but after that, we all did great and skied all day. We were exhausted by 9:00 when we finally got home.
Sunday was a lazy day. After church, the girls went ice fishing with a neighbor and I watched Breaking Dawn, Part 2 and a new show called Red Widow. I have not watched that much TV in a long time. It was such a great weekend. Lots of fun and laziness.